We all are living in an society, where we meet people and got engaged with each other by seeing only the positive side of them. And the most important part is that we rejects/oversee the negative habits or behaviour of them. We see people as we are and not what they actually are. In short we became credulous of them. when we do, we didn’t get to know when they are coming towards us to harm us. Now the problem is how to get them to know better.
Firstly, there are lots of people and each of them have have their own raising and behaviour pattern, so instead of making them like you, or behave like you, accept them as they are or leave them as they are.
Now to know them better, do two things. Firstly, watch them closely, as how they behave with others, in different sets of environments like while travelling, while shopping (street vendors/ malls), while giving charity, while talking about (friends/ enemies). This will give you clear reality how a person is, and how close you can get them with.
Secondly, when you are done with first step, watch them from far away. By watching from far away you will see things which you haven’t seen from close. For example, what we see from our eyes is land is flat, and we believe that earth is flat. Now when we see from far, we see that land is not flat but a curve, thus realising that the earth is round.
Same way observe people from far away, and you will notice things which you haven’t from close.